Emotions unclear.

So many emotions unclear,
Fear and pain always so near,
Thoughts a jumbled mess,
Love is no kindness.

Love, hate and everything in between,
But love is so often unseen,
It may be darkest before the dawn,
But that doesn’t make it easier to go on.


Fred Phelps at deaths door.

So apparently Fred Phelps Sr., founder and pastor of the westboro baptist church, is at deaths door. He’s reported to be dying in a hospice in Kansas, presumably not far from his home and church in Topeka.

I do honestly wish I could say I felt bad for him and his family, but considering the amount of pain and emotional damage he and his family has caused to so many, I can’t muster much sympathy for them. That being said, I wish him no pain. At the end of the day he is still human, despite the harm he has caused. I may not take sympathy on him as he’s dying but I’m not going to take pleasure in another’s pain or demise, I’m a better person than that. And I would like to think most people are.

I’ve seen a lot of atheists who seem to be taking some kind of perverse pleasure in the news that Phelps, horrible as he was, is dying. I find this to be very disheartening. Are we really “good without god” if so many are happy to take pleasure in the suffering of another, regardless of what he may have done? In my view taking pleasure in the pain of this man doesn’t make you a whole lot better than him or his family.

I’ve also seen calls for members of the LGBT community to picket his funeral when the inevitable occurs and Phelps dies. I’d like to make me feelings on that suggestion very clear, it’s a bad idea. To do that lowers you to the same level as Phelps and his church, and that’s not something we should strive to do. Show the world that the very people the WBC has spent years demonizing and condemning are better people than the members of WBC. Prove that the LGBT community is better than him and his family, allow them the opportunity to mourn him in peace.

Phelps may not have been a good person, but he was still a person. His family may be bad people, but they are people. Show you’re better than them, treat them the way you want to be treated and not the way they have treated you. Subscribing to the “an eye for an eye”  mentality won’t do anyone any good.

Don’t take pleasure in his death or his family’s pain, don’t picket his funeral. Allow his family mourn the father and grandfather they are about to lose. It’s the decent thing to do, even if it’s not what WBC would do.

Censorship & offense.

So once again it appears Islam has managed to force someone into submitting to its will and censoring their work. A song by the name of “MTBD” has been censored because it apparently contained a verse from the Quran.

Sadly this isn’t even the first time this year it has happened. Katy Perry’s music video for her song “Dark Horse” was altered last month because of global Muslim outrage after someone noticed one of the men in the video, who is turned into sand, was wearing a necklace bearing the name “Allah” in Arabic.

I make no apologies as I state, with no hesitation, that it is utterly and completely moronic to censor any form of artistic work simply because people are offended. Everyone has the right to free speech and free expression, this right does not magically disappear because you’re offended by something. That’s not how this works.

Allowing censorship to occur because someone is offended by something could quite easily lead to more censorship. It may sound like a “slippery slope fallacy” but it isn’t. To censor something because it’s perceived as offensive to Muslims cab set a precedent that can be used if something is perceived as offensive to Christians or Hindus or any other religious group. After all if we’ll censor something for Islam, why not censor other things because they are offensive to other religions. Or any other group for that matter.

And incase anyone feels the need to scream “islamaphobia” let me make something very clear: I don’t oppose the censorship of “MTBD” or “Dark Horse” because it was done for Islam, I oppose it simply because I oppose censorship. Simply because you feel offended by something doesn’t make it wrong or give you the right to have it censored. Just about anything can be perceived as offensive if you want it to be. The world is a mean place, at some point you will be offended but you’re going to have to get used to it.

Everyone can fight for equality!

International women’s day, a day honour women all over the world. It’s also the perfect day to highlight the inequality and injustices faced by women from all walks of life.
There is no denying many women face great injustice and oppression on a daily basis for no other reason than their gender. This is a sad fact of the world we live in, but it is something we can and must fight against.
Equality is something that everybody deserves regardless of age, race, gender, sexuality or any other factor. Equally we can all contribute to the fight for equality regardless of age, race, gender, sexuality or any other factor. To argue otherwise is not only unhelpful but is extremely counterproductive. To tell someone who wants to help achieve equality for others that their efforts are unwanted because they don’t face that inequality has never been helpful or productive. Attitudes like that will only ever serve to ostracise people who may have something to contribute to movements such as feminism.
Creating divisions amongst people, by claiming they can’t or shouldn’t try to help battle inequality because they aren’t directly affected by it, will never help achieve equality for all.
Instead of dismissing the efforts of certain people because of their “privilege”, try entering into rational discussions with them. Help educate them on the oppression, inequality and injustices faced by other groups. Give them the chance to work alongside you and to perhaps use their privilege to help further feminism or any other equality movement. Use the platforms people, such as Richard Dawkins have managed to establish, to reach more people and gain momentum for worthwhile movements.

Don’t just assume that because someone doesn’t face the same inequalities as you that they can’t be a valuable ally.

Everyone can fight for equality!

If only…

You consume my thoughts,
Your beauty invades my memory,
My heart skips at the very mention of you,
Words do you no justice,
To me you are perfection embodied.
Happiness is all I wish upon you,
Untempered love and adoration should be yours,
All of these I wish I could give you,
My heart breaks knowing I’ll never be the person you deserve,
If only I was…